Parenting with LOVE

In The Family: A Proclamation to the World, we learn that “The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force.”

In our course we have learned about the parenting styles and what that looks like in its application. Authoritarian, Permissive, and Authoritative parenting all yield different results and while Authoritative parenting seems to offer the best outcomes, it’s important to keep in mind what President James E. Faust said in our textbook. “Child rearing is so individualistic. Every child is different and unique. What works with one may not work with another.” (Hart, Newell, Haup, 2016, p. 104).

This leads me to believe that although you wouldn’t completely change your parenting style with each child, you can and should borrow from each style to meet the needs of your child.

We also learn from The Family: A Proclamation to the World that, “Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live.”

This is supported by a quote from Gordon B. Hinckley that reads, “Every child is entitled to grow up in a home where there is warm and secure companionship, where there is love in the family relationship, where appreciation one for another is taught and exemplified, and where God is acknowledged, and His peace and blessings invoked before the family altar.” (Hart, Newell, Haup, 2016, p. 128)

There is also some really good news here in the gospel as it relates to parenting. Even if you grew up in a somewhat shaky household or if your childhood was full-on chaotic, the gospel doctrine is filled with resources to help you raise a family with the Spirit in your home and love unconditionally, like our Savior.

Parenting is hard, no matter how you approach it or whatever style works for you and your family, but something that has been beneficial to my little family is for my husband and I to identify things that didn’t work for us growing up and also habits that our parents had or lessons that we want to continue and pass down.

I’m not going to say that a lot of parenting isn’t trial and error, and some things you just can’t prepare for and will learn a long the way, but getting a foundation for the kind of parent you want to be saves you from figuring that out on the fly or worse, not figuring that out at all.

References:
Hart, C. H., Newell, L. D., Haup, J. H. (2016). Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives. BYU Bookstore Publishing Services.

The Family: A Proclamation to the World. (n.d). https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation

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https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/media/image/parents-daughter-walking-8ef3633?lang=eng&collectionId=efe9fd41a25145e3bae0d2502d7e31eb

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